Modesty is the Best Policy

Dressing modestly in a world that views beauty as an external quality can be difficult! The "cutest" clothes are often short shorts, revealing  tops, and backless dresses. Clothes are a part of our identity. They show your social status, friend groups, and what kind of life you lead. 

Shopping for cute, yet modest clothing can become frustrating. Either clothes are to conservative (its ok to not to want to dress like the Duggars) or its to showy. Finding that middle ground can be difficult. But don't worry it is possible to where cute clothes that honor the Lord! 

Why wear modest clothes?? Why not dress like everyone else?

First off, it may be that your parents have certain standards. you may not always agree with what they say, but it's important to honor them by listening to them!! Colossians‬ ‭3:20‬ says, “Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.”
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Secondly, if we were to flaunt our bodies, we could be a stumbling block to our brothers in Christ. In seeing our bodies in a certain way, it can cause them to think impure thoughts.  We should want to use our bodies as a way to glorify God, rather then leading to sin. 1 Corinthians 8:13 states, "Therefore, if food makes my brother stumble, I will never eat meat, lest I make my brother stumble." Paul was  encouraging believers not to eat a certain kind of food because it was causing others to sin.  

And lastly, the bible says to be in the world but not of it. If we dress like everyone else, how will people know we are Christians? God calls us to act, look and dress differently then the world expects us to. But how do we do that?

I would like to share some tips on Modesty. You do not have to follow these to be modest. They are just guidelines I like to follow! 

Shorts:

- Stand up and relax your arms against your side.  A good length would be between your index finger and thumb. 

- Now sit down. Would you feel uncomfortable with how much of your skin is showing?

- Stand up and bend over. Is your butt seen? 

Shirts:

- Bend over. Can you see down your shirt?

- Lift up your arms. Can you see your stomach? 

Dresses:

- Just like with shorts, you want to pick a length you are comfortable with. 

- If you find a dress you like, but feel it is too short, try wearing leggings under it!

- If your bra is showing, you can either where a strapless one, or wear a sweater!

This is a helpful tool for you to use, not strict rules. I would encourage you to pray and see how God is leading you to wear clothes for His glory! 1 Corinthians 10:31 "So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God."

I hope this will be a helpful tool for you to use. If you are struggling with how to be modest, yet fashionable, you are not alone! if you have an questions or want to talk about anything else, let me know.